In my 20's I dated a guy for about 6 months, stayed messily involved with him for a couple years after that, and then continued to believe he was the love of my life for another decade. OY.
After that first 6 months he pretty much went off in another direction, which was my cue to look elsewhere for love. There were a lot of reasons I ignored that cue (I’m a stubborn Taurus, oxytocin is REAL, I liked the way he made me feel when I had his attention, I believed we were soulmates, he had excellent taste in music, LOL).
But the main reason? I had something to prove to myself. I didn’t realize it at the time, but that’s what it was. I needed to prove to myself that I was worth this guy’s commitment.
The truth is, I was worth so much more.
It wasn’t until I finally got super fed up with being single that I was able to see how pining for him was keeping me stuck and alone. I deserved a great love!
Are you currently pining for anyone? Even if you're out there dating, is there someone in the back of your mind or the front of your heart you just can’t shake?
I’m here to tell you if that guy is not showing up for you, he is not your love. And it’s time to let him go.
On some level you may have made him the gold standard of your self-worth. But this is where you have a very powerful choice to make. You get to determine what you’re worth.
If you decide having a man in your life who adores you, wants to be with you every single day, thinks he’s the luckiest guy in the world to have you, and who truly makes you happy… if you decide you’re worth all of that, then let the old guy go.
Give yourself the gift of standing up for your self-worth. Close the door on that old story and open the door for real, true love to appear. You can do it.
Trust me, the new guy will be soooo worth it.
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Jen Mallinger is a trained Martha Beck Life Coach. A former boy chaser, hopeless romantic, survivor of the dating desert, and highly sensitive intimacy avoider, she is now married to the greatest guy ever. She loves sharing insights and action-steps for those looking for love and reciprocity in relationships.